I could not stay sober till I fully committed to the recovery program of Alcoholics Anonymous, and I have come to conclude that there is a type of alcoholic for whom there is no other solution. Please keep an open mind about the possibility that you -- like me -- may be that type.
The basic text of A.A. -- the Big Book -- tells us that: "Resentment is the 'number one' offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else." Unsurprisingly, one of the 12 steps of recovery in A.A. is devoted to getting to the root of these resentments. Perhaps consider going to A.A. and getting a sponsor to help you go through the steps.