Hi kilanilaufy, and Welcome!
As you have learned the very hard way, there is nothing we can do to control someone else's drinking. I'm sorry for all you have been through.
I hope you can continue to see your counselor. And Al-Anon is a group that helps people whose lives are impacted by someone else's drinking. You can search on-line to see if there is a group that meets near you to see if you think it would be a good fit for you.
Please stop by here and vent any time. Believe me, we get it.