Welcome.
As stated everyone in early sobriety can say things they don't mean because the mind and body is going through extremes. Also people can say things they don't mean when they're drinking and using other drugs. Early days the people still has the alcoholic and user brain and thoughts.
The only thing that will straighten out confusion so both of you can move on is time. Things can could work out, things may change. Sometimes relationships are so damaged that it's best to move on