I think I agree with your sponsor. Remember that a year-long inpatient program doesn't guarantee successful recovery and no relapses. Those things, ultimately, are up to you. I believe that, if you are motivated, you will be successful and the program you choose won't matter as much as the changes you make within yourself. One thing I would say is stay away from family members who disrespect you. You do not need toxic people in your life now or ever. You need to surround yourself with people who support you and love you. One of the most important things I did in early recovery was to remove several toxic people from my life, including a close family member. Listen to your heart and do what you need, lean on people who will help you. And, know that we are here for you.