Hi again Rose - very interesting thoughts on the dream representation. My thought (if indeed the water/subconscious relationship is true) is that you are not afraid to look deep within yourself as you are able to come out again unscathed, and also that you are a survivor!
I too struggle with the boundary thing. The idea of setting them really scared me - I didn't know how to even begin and the whole idea was just overwhelming. My A is so stubborn that if I gave the "quit or else" ultimatum, I know for a fact that he would up and leave, even though I know he wouldn't want to. That is how stubborn he is.
Anyway, I have to say thanks to Smoke for that wonderful cracker analogy - here I've been starting to set boundaries already, and didn't even know it! I think I need to go and read the sticky post again!
Love and hugs.