There are many lessons learned and continue to
learn while living a recovery life. One being that
there will be things restored back to us that we once
thought or figured lost.
Relationships, money, families, jobs, self worth,
and so much more.
It was explained to me that I needed to work on
my recovery first and foremost before taking on
bigger issues in my life.
Everyone's situation is different, so i'm using me
as an example. When i entered recovery, i was
married 7 yrs with 2 little toddlers. A stay at home
mom and husband working full time and going
for a degree in college.
There were responsibilities I needed to step up
to the plate for which was recovery and family.
If I didnt learn how to remian sober then I wouldnt
have a family or a life. So finding balance between
the 2 was extremely important if i want to keep both
of them.
And I did.
Relationships are no different. It will take getting
some solid recovery, sober time, knowing that alcohol
is out of the equation for good and replacing it with
new tools to live by. A recovery guideline and support.
Then you can add a boyfriend to the equation. Or
if its a packing up and moving elsewhere, or starting
a new job.
Any of those few things require total sober focus because
they tug at any and all of our emotions. Mentally, emotionally,
physically.
Learning how to remain sober is a tall order and requires
all your attention. Having to think and worry about many
of lifes other problems will take away or interfere, or distract
with what is top priority. Staying sober and building a strong
defense against addiction that will always be lurking and
tempting to take us down.
Focus on you and what is top priority and all the other
wonderful things ahead of you will fall into place if it be.
