Would you say this is a sign of cocaine use?
I split with my ex in April. He was a sober alcoholic when I met him back in August 2020 and he never did touch another drop..he was quite passionate about it. But in all honesty he was a nightmare. Angry and snappy. Easily triggered and would become unreasonable. I tried to continue to push him onto a steady path.
he was in a 9 year relationship with a woman before me.she was a hard working woman and they lived in a village attached to the edge of our town. They had a nice home and no children together. They had dogs. He worked hard as a plant operator and brought home a nice wage each week. It sounds as though they both drank alot but had nothing much else in common socially. His drinking spiralled along with his depression. He liked his other women and eventually he went too far, too many times and his ex had enough. They split and he couldn't get over it. Due to his messy credit score he couldn't find anywhere to live but he did eventually get a house in the roughest area around where we live and he had a dodgy landlord. Drugs and crime is massive there. People are quite skint. He tried to end his life a month before he met me. He text his ex. Who saved him. They continued a friendship which ruined our relationship. He hid that he wasn't over that.
When we were together he was likely mirroring me more than I realised. He was faking the whole future and acting like he wanted us to buy the house and be happy bla bla bla. But the relationship was not really progressing. He always needed my money. But he also occasionally would loose a twenty I had just given him. I caught him lying sometimes and didn't say anything. Like one day I said I was cleaning and he asked for a tenner so he could buy some stuff to clean his place. The next day I went under his sink for something and realised he had not bought any cleaning products. There was a point we were both looking round his house for 2 teaspoons he had lost and it was bugging the life out of him.
His moods were unstable. He struck up friendships with a few lads that either sell weed or have addictions. I used to think why would he wanna mix with those men they are always stealing! He told me his TV got pinched when he walked the dog one day. They apparently stole both his remotes. But a month later the remote for the sound system reappeared. I ended up getting him a new tele which he never paid me back for.
We split in April when I caught him texting him ex but also other women and strange phone behaviour had begun. By that point I had been woken up more than once by his dodgy friends banging on the door late at night. Once it was over a tenner for weed and they almost had a scrap. The relationship wasn't progressing and he was eating my overdraft! I was sick of his verbal abuse and being thrown out and the silent treatments were getting too much aswel.
the last 4 months I have been building back up and I'm getting back to the old me. I'm at peace. But still pretty devastated about who he really was and what's happened since we split. He's told so many lies about me and my character.
Last week I was told by a lad who lives near him that there were forever dealers going around and he knew he was on smack and crack. I was quite shocked and argued he was only into weed. I never was told about that. Since then I've clicked on he had this scab up his nose that took weeks to heal and he said it was because the dog headbutted him. He was often sniffing and his nose would run quite alot! I just figured he had a delicate nose.
I just wondered what other things would indicate if he was doing this sort of thing? I want to know so I never get involved with that stuff again but also it's helping me let go of that final bit of him I believed in. I just want to understand. Thank you and sorry its long.