Hi Betty, The guilt and shame can lead us right back to drinking, so we have to move on past the negative thoughts. One thing that helped me in the early days was journalling. I would write all my negative thoughts down whenever they popped into my head, which was often. The process of writing out the words seemed to take away some of their power. Also, try to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. And, a Gratitude Journal can be so helpful. Each day, write down 3 or 4 things that you are grateful for.