Sorry Minnie that came off half cocked! I was thinking about what Jane had said re needing to talk about negative behaviour so that we know we aren't alone - i think that's fair and I believe you do too. I used a lousey example for what we do when we reply to a thread written by someone suffering the consequences of another's ineffective coping mechanisms, ie if we can help then it is our business.
I suppose that's why I also say I don't think a catchy phrase like 'dry drunk' helps. Because we do what we can - rather than more than we can if you get me?