I come to this forum to GAIN knowledge and hopefully just to impart a wee bit by sharing my own ESH.
If I have learned naught I at least realize something and it is that when corresponding with others over the the internet it is probably best to avoid using terms like "dry drunk" and "tough love" when trying to describe another persons behaviour or what I think they should be doing.
It is perfectly okay for me to adapt these terms to my own behaviour but I think we are cutting it too close when we attach it to people we do not even know.