Self solving¿?
I am seeing on websites, youtube, conferences, etc that many therapists propose that you should not intervene and let things happen naturally. Just protect yourself (¿?)
That will solve the problem in some way.
They will suddenly REALIZE once you stop confronting them and stop trying to hold them accountable for the unnecesary misery they bring to the table
However, my ex A was binge drinking ( and may be doing some cocaine ) at least a few years before I know her ....and nobody was there playing "the boring guy" or "the controller"
And that didn´t make any improvement
hence my presence in her life sadly didn´t change anything , for worst or for better.
Actually, during one of our breakups she has had several episodes quite embarrassing due to alcohol, I know because some friends saw her.
So..... I dunno what to think....
Will she stay in that "binge state" of the illness for ever?
will she REALIZE and get help?
Will she finally become a full blown alcoholic?