Originally Posted by
dustyfox 
Just like you will not be able to persuade him to stop his drug taking, only you will know when it's time to call a stop to this relationship.
I wasted a long time on a man who took drugs and thought life was just one long party - I am not with him now thank god, and I do literally 'thank god' I found the strength to move on. I hope you find the strength to do what is right for you.
Thank you for your reply. I think I have given him plenty of chances. I have made it very clear that if he continues to use I and more importantly lie about it I will be leaving. It is so hard because he is very unwell and I do love him but I have to prioritise myself. He isn't a bad person and I don't think he realises that addiction has turned him into a liar and manipulative. I feel like I need to give him the opportunity to try but I will be very clear about my boundaries and he has to be accessing support if he is struggling. He has some way to go before admitting this to himself.