Wooohoooo
Sounds to me like God is already takking care of you... he gives you the gifts and its up to you if you want to accept them and go on to live a happy, healthy life. You dont have to accept them, you could stay caught up in the chaos of your ex... though maybe God did for you what he did for me.
I would not have left that relationship... nope, I would have beat my head against the wall for alot longer then I did and been misserable and made everyone around me just as unhappy. SO... when I asked for intervention ... he gave it. Next thing I know he does not want to be with me?? shock...... Maybe that is what he did for you too, took you away from it BEFORE you completely lost you.
Count your blessings... sounds like a lovely blond attorney is just the thing you need right now... which is not always the same as what we want.
*hugs* Just keep moving forward. One day at a time.