What makes it so necessary to keep this particular house?
The market is good - does it make any sense to sell it and start fresh with a new house?
I hate to go against your counselor's advice... to walk through the fear, but I do wonder what is driving you to insist on learning to tolerate a place that brings you so much discomfort.
Life is too short.
I hope you can find some comfort and peace.
PS - I apologize if I misspoke - I also just saw which forum I was in... if this sounds flippant or unreasonable, please consider the source as I have not walked in your shoes and don't know the fear you are experiencing.