Originally Posted by
Leftinthedust 
Ez,
just know you aren’t alone man. There’s others here juggling the same crazy-town scenario you are. Just lean on some of the great advice that these folks can give you. I wish I’d found this place 4-months ago. My AW had been in rehab 4.5 months now and the longer she’s in there the further she’s gotten from her family and reality. Based off her online activity, I suspect she’s looking for that next high or equivalent of that best drink in the form of a new relationship. I think best thing you can do is try your hardest to detach. It’s what I’m working on, it sucks, it’s not easy, and there are days where the anger and grief win out. But we don’t have a choice but to go on…do we? I don’t know exactly what “taking care of yourself” looks like yet in a complete picture, but I’m trying. I hope you can find a little joy in things you may have liked to do before this woman. Peace to you.
Thank you for reaching out man. Are you still together with your wife, and what makes you think she's looking for the next thing? Sorry you are going through the same thing as well. I was blaming myself at first but at the end of the day I know I did all I could for this girl and put her before myself 99% of the time.
I had fears that when she went into a rehab place, that her insecurities and reliance of others would let her bad decisions take over. When I would bring up my worries, she tried to calm them by telling me that she's there to work for herself. Her response when I bought up other dudes? "She's not looking". I just can't understand how she can be so hurtful to the ones who loved her the most (her family and I). It's incredibly selfish.