Originally Posted by
LovelyKaya33333 
I mean everyone agreed that my exAH had a great heart... but even that changed over the last 7 years... So yes ... alcohol destroys someones brain, mental capacity to have empathy and compassion... not saying if an alcoholic gets sober it can return but I think now anything they say or do has no meaning behind it... Good or Bad... They just throw things out there and see what sticks in a way...
You're right on target here. I think XABF was banking on his great heart reputation, and it was just like he was lobbing stuff out to see what would stick.
I was polite, told him nothing had changed for either of us, wished him well, and that was the end of it. I deleted the message. I know a few months ago I was still heartbroken over this; now I feel sadness at the waste of it all, but feel no desire whatsoever to get involved again.