Hey Honey, sorry to hear about the hard times you are having. My husband abused drugs for years and i too did not know the extent until things like you describe started to happen I lost my home, business and almost my sanity I tried to get him to seek help but I learned that you can not make some one seek help they have to admit there is a problem and want to get the help for themselves not family friends etc. have you tried an intervention? Unfortunatly, my husband's disease beat him and I lost him 3 yrs ago at age 49 We have 2 children now ages 31 heather and 25 Peter. I really hope that no one has to go through that sort of thing haveyou looked into getting help for yourself? Please let me know if I can help you in any way as I too became addicted to valium and pain pills after surgery I am clean now for 11mts but it is a struggle I will keep you in my prayers and in my heart Please let me know how things are going Bless you and your children Nancy