Originally Posted by
trailmix 
You know it's interesting what you say above. When I read that I see someone that was included in a group even though she may not have been doing what they were doing (drinking), that's kind of a positive thing really?
Of course high school can be touchy and I know you didn't feel that way, but maybe it's time to reframe that? People wanted your company regardless of what you were up to - that's good criteria for friends at any time and reflects well on you.
I think in some ways I can see what you are saying from an outside perspective and to be able to reframe it that way would be great. It mostly always made me feel like an outcast and that I was only around to mother people that were too drunk or help people that were on drugs. I always wondered if they would see me as valuable if I “wasn’t so put together” in their eyes. Like would I still be invited? Or was I only valuable because I had an intrinsic nature to take care of people…. It’s always been an ouch feeling in a way