I so understand what you are saying sparkle. I had the same role in our family. It’s like I can’t be at peace until everyone else is first. I have been in therapy for about 5 years now. Struggling with the codependency issue. My anxiety stems from from both issues mentioned above. Did join a codependency on line group but didn’t find it so helpful. Will be going to my second Al-Anon tomorrow evening just having a particularly bad weekend. Thank you for your response. I truly appreciate it ☘️