Originally Posted by FreeOwl

boy do I feel you in your situation. We lost my sister in 2020 to alcohol. In late 2019, after numerous attempts to provide Experience Strength and Hope - met by continued alcohol-addled awfulness between us - I had to put up my boundaries. I expressed to her that I'd be there for her when she was ready for recovery but until then I had to protect my sobriety and my family from her descent into despairing alcoholism. I felt awful about it. Even moreso when in 2020, she finally got taken by the disease. She was 28.

It pains me still that we really never got to mend from that. We'd attempted an intervention in early 2020, which I participated in with love and with sincere hope that we could connect with her and she'd take action. Unfortunately, she didn't. That intervention attempt was my last contact with her - during which she'd become enraged that I was there and demanded I not be there.

But, our relationship had become toxic and every time I'd engaged with her, it had resulted in some kind of conflict or situation stemming from her drinking that was damaging to me, to my family, to our relationship.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Hang in there. I hope your brother finds his way.