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Old 09-25-2021, 03:47 AM
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A big congratulations. You did it right. Some of your lessons learned need to be underscored. They were critical for me:
Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
You cannot intellectualise, reason or think your way out of alcoholism. The only way is definitive action and this action is founded on abstinence from alcohol.
It would be nice if we could think our way out of alcoholism. It might avoid the initial cravings and obsessions. But it doesn't help much, and at some point, we have to stop. That's the only way you can break the cycle.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
Most people require structure and routine and you can't do it alone. Think healthy eating, productive work and exercise. Your primary, and some will saw sole aim though is to stay sober.
In the beginning, recovery requires all your attention. Any needs or desires must take a back seat to not taking a drink. Your whole life will revolve around sobriety and avoiding risk.

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Assuming you achieve the above, early recovery is still a painful and tortuous process. The only way to the end point is through it.
Yes. Early on is Hell, but it doesn't last long and it can be shortened by taking your above points seriously.

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As you do progress you will need to keep moving forward with life. Add small, achievable new goals week by week. Small victories along the way will reinforce your commitment to recovery as you start to see the benefits.
This period after the Hell phase is a vulnerable time. Your life is getting better, and many redirect their attention away from sobriety and end up in relapse. It's a shame, because this part of recovery is the most enjoyable part of the whole process. I've been in this phase for 25 years. Take it seriously, because this is the fun part, and you don't want to miss it.

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Gratitude will get you through on many occasions. Make a daily mental note of what you are grateful for and write it down.
Gratitude is especially important when you don't feel like being grateful. Stop and reconsider your blessings.

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Last but not least, SR can help enormously with all of the above so stay close, particularly in the early days.
It's clear you have sobriety figured out. I'm not going to worry about you.
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