Blogs


Notices

1000 days and more

Old 09-25-2021, 01:22 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Forwards's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 611
1000 days and more

I'm 1000 days sober tomorrow and writing this from the executive car I have been newly trusted with in my job only 33 months after quitting drinking. I had reached pretty much rock bottom - in the gutter both metaphorically and literally. I am feeling so much better aligned with the world physically, mentally and emotionally. At last I am feeling like I can begin to fit in to society, my environment and this world with all it has to offer. Maybe I can now make some small contribution to it.

Some lessons learned:

You cannot intellectualise, reason or think your way out of alcoholism. The only way is definitive action and this action is founded on abstinence from alcohol.

You will need every tool in the box to achieve and maintain the above. This may include inpatient or rehab for some. Most people require structure and routine and you can't do it alone. Think healthy eating, productive work and exercise. Your primary, and some will saw sole aim though is to stay sober. Big changes life changes will be needed. You will need to surrender, let go of much of your old thinking and learn not to 'think like an addict'.

Assuming you achieve the above, early recovery is still a painful and tortuous process. The only way to the end point is through it. As you do progress you will need to keep moving forward with life. Add small, achievable new goals week by week. Small victories along the way will reinforce your commitment to recovery as you start to see the benefits.

Some days will be worse than others, in all cases if you can stay sober you have won. Keep moving. Gratitude will get you through on many occasions. Make a daily mental note of what you are grateful for and write it down.

Last but not least, SR can help enormously with all of the above so stay close, particularly in the early days.

As I have shared previously, I still have ongoing mental health issues to manage and address but even this seems possible now. If drinking, it would be hopeless.

Thank you sincerely to all who have helped me get this far as I continue to count my blessings. Warm wishes to all. Forwards.
Forwards is offline  
The Following 21 Users Say Thank You to Forwards For This Useful Post:
2ndhandrose (09-25-2021), Anna (09-25-2021), BackandScared (09-27-2021), biminiblue (09-25-2021), ClearPath64 (09-25-2021), Dee74 (09-25-2021), Erratic (09-27-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), Haris2014 (09-25-2021), Hodd (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Mags1 (09-25-2021), MaxVano (09-25-2021), mnjen (09-25-2021), Numblady (09-27-2021), Outonthetiles (09-25-2021), Ravel (09-25-2021), Reid82 (09-25-2021), Robbie64 (09-25-2021), someday147 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 01:33 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 201,790
Blog Entries: 1
Congratulations Forwards - you richly deserve your success

D
Dee74 is offline  
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Reid82 (09-25-2021), someday147 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 02:40 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Member
 
ClearPath64's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Kansas City, MO
Posts: 856
Blog Entries: 33
Congratulations Forward. Thanks for sharing your success story, and your lessons learned, as it helps many of us who are in early recovery. Best of luck to you!
ClearPath64 is offline  
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to ClearPath64 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Reid82 (09-25-2021), someday147 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 02:53 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Member
 
Robbie64's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2017
Location: UK
Posts: 2,265
Congratulations Forwards on 1,000 days of sobriety and thank you for your inspiring post
Robbie64 is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Robbie64 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), someday147 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 03:11 AM
  # 5 (permalink)  
Member
 
Reid82's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Kerry, Ireland
Posts: 2,300
Congrats on your 1000 days.
Reid82 is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Reid82 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), someday147 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 03:47 AM
  # 6 (permalink)  
Member
 
DriGuy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2018
Posts: 3,606
A big congratulations. You did it right. Some of your lessons learned need to be underscored. They were critical for me:
Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
You cannot intellectualise, reason or think your way out of alcoholism. The only way is definitive action and this action is founded on abstinence from alcohol.
It would be nice if we could think our way out of alcoholism. It might avoid the initial cravings and obsessions. But it doesn't help much, and at some point, we have to stop. That's the only way you can break the cycle.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
Most people require structure and routine and you can't do it alone. Think healthy eating, productive work and exercise. Your primary, and some will saw sole aim though is to stay sober.
In the beginning, recovery requires all your attention. Any needs or desires must take a back seat to not taking a drink. Your whole life will revolve around sobriety and avoiding risk.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
Assuming you achieve the above, early recovery is still a painful and tortuous process. The only way to the end point is through it.
Yes. Early on is Hell, but it doesn't last long and it can be shortened by taking your above points seriously.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
As you do progress you will need to keep moving forward with life. Add small, achievable new goals week by week. Small victories along the way will reinforce your commitment to recovery as you start to see the benefits.
This period after the Hell phase is a vulnerable time. Your life is getting better, and many redirect their attention away from sobriety and end up in relapse. It's a shame, because this part of recovery is the most enjoyable part of the whole process. I've been in this phase for 25 years. Take it seriously, because this is the fun part, and you don't want to miss it.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
Gratitude will get you through on many occasions. Make a daily mental note of what you are grateful for and write it down.
Gratitude is especially important when you don't feel like being grateful. Stop and reconsider your blessings.

Originally Posted by Forwards View Post
Last but not least, SR can help enormously with all of the above so stay close, particularly in the early days.
It's clear you have sobriety figured out. I'm not going to worry about you.
DriGuy is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to DriGuy For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Robbie64 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 07:26 AM
  # 7 (permalink)  
Member
 
Zebra1275's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 12,811
Congratulations!
Zebra1275 is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Zebra1275 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Reid82 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 07:28 AM
  # 8 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 57,329
Congratulations, Forwards! You're doing great.
Anna is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Anna For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), Reid82 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 09:09 AM
  # 9 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 2,215
Love it, Forwards. We’re sober twins! You’ve certainly pulled things around and are bang on about what an undertaking getting sober is. It’s a whole lifestyle change.

You quit around 31 December 2018. I think we can count ourselves fortunate to have had that sober time before the s*** hit in the fan around March 2020.

Great post.
Hodd is online now  
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Hodd For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 10:41 AM
  # 10 (permalink)  
Member
 
Kaily's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London, England
Posts: 5,704
Lovely post. Well done Forwards.
Kaily is offline  
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Kaily For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-25-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), least (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 08:15 PM
  # 11 (permalink)  
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 94,826
Blog Entries: 32
Big congrats and hugs on reaching 1,000 days sober! And thank you for sharing your succinct wisdom about sobriety.
least is online now  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 09:03 PM
  # 12 (permalink)  
Member
 
Flower2327's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2016
Posts: 124
Congrats
Flower2327 is offline  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Flower2327 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021), Free2bme888 (09-25-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-25-2021, 10:24 PM
  # 13 (permalink)  
Magsie
 
Mags1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 21,629
Blog Entries: 1
Congratulations Forwards on 1000+ Days. Great post!
Mags1 is online now  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Mags1 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021), Free2bme888 (09-26-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-26-2021, 05:36 AM
  # 14 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2017
Posts: 1,924
Congratulations on 1000+ days sober. Thanks for a great post too 🙏
brighterday1234 is online now  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to brighterday1234 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021), Free2bme888 (09-26-2021), VikingGF (09-26-2021)
Old 09-26-2021, 05:43 AM
  # 15 (permalink)  
Member
 
VikingGF's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: New England
Posts: 2,608
Blog Entries: 5
Congrats on your 1000+ days and for your post.
VikingGF is offline  
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to VikingGF For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021), Free2bme888 (09-26-2021)
Old 09-26-2021, 08:38 PM
  # 16 (permalink)  
Member
 
Free2bme888's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2018
Location: Where I’ve longed to be all my life…..here, now.
Posts: 4,904
Quadruple digits! Wonderful, Forwards!
Free2bme888 is online now  
The Following User Says Thank You to Free2bme888 For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-26-2021)
Old 09-26-2021, 10:07 PM
  # 17 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
Forwards's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: UK
Posts: 611
Thank you all for your kind and insightful replies. I have to admit, four digits feels good.

Today sees me travelling on business - another benefit of sobriety. It really is the gift that keeps on giving...

Best wishes to all. Forwards.
Forwards is offline  
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Forwards For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (09-27-2021), Erratic (09-27-2021), Free2bme888 (09-29-2021), Robbie64 (09-26-2021)
Old 09-27-2021, 01:14 AM
  # 18 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 2,215
Last time I travelled on business with colleagues, I was 6 months sober. It wasn’t a glamour destination although it was where I’d gone to Uni, and I hadn’t been back since the 90s. I knew my colleagues drank, but I didn’t know it was that much! We started in a pub (well they started, I just watched) before adjourning to what was a very good and authentic Chinese restaurant. An unknown trick from living in Asia is to order Chinese tea and when you want more, leave the top off the teapot - the staff know you want a refill, and it’s free! Despite being seven beers down, my colleagues noticed and all ordered a tea! After the meal, they went, not surprisingly, to another pub! I made excuses and walked across town to my old Uni and ordered a non-alcoholic drink in the student bar - the students must’ve thought I was some lost mad professor, but I’m sure I enjoyed that drink way more than my colleagues’ beer(s) back at the pub.

These colleagues weren’t doing roadworks or such, they were supposedly professionals doing defence-related work. You’d think such trips would be a trigger, but if anything, I wanted to drink even less after witnessing that evening.

Have a good trip, Forwards 👍
Hodd is online now  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Hodd For This Useful Post:
Dee74 (09-27-2021), Forwards (09-27-2021), Free2bme888 (09-29-2021)
Old 09-27-2021, 02:43 AM
  # 19 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 694
Fantastic post and great advice. Thank you
BackandScared is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to BackandScared For This Useful Post:
Forwards (09-27-2021)

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:32 PM.