Originally Posted by
dandylion 
WheredIgo……..Yes, I understand that having visitors for a long time can feel draining. It takes energy. Can you ever get out of the house away from him?
lol....well, it is a blessing that the cows are still giving milk.
I like it better when he gets out of the house away from me
but yes I can. He does get weird about it sometimes though but I call him on it when he does. I remember him getting enraged last fall when I took the leaves down to the city where they go instead of just throwing them in the garbage but I set him straight on that and he ended up apologizing. I did go visit a friend a couple weeks ago and I could tell he was feeling weird about that but didn't say anything.
Some of the most stupid stuff gets criticized but that's part of why I'm working on all this. Trying to tear away from his control I didn't even see gradually happening over the years. And I know some of that goes the other way too.
BTW-I did make out that to-do-list. I plan to start working on it Monday.
Thanks for all of your help!