hi justkeepinon, glad you decided to post. Yes, it can be very frustrating, you will find a lot of support here for you though!
I hope you will read around the forum and post as often as you would like.
Is this normal behaviour? Many times a person will pull away when they enter sobriety, is he sober? Who knows! You are sure to find out more but him being absent, basically for a month, isn't really good for you is it?