ff, before you decide to stop posting, I suggest you read this thread:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...y-they-do.html (To newbies - why people respond the way they do)
Your reaction isn't uncommon at all. Maybe this will help you understand what seems harsh to you. I know that a lot of what I heard when I first came here made me angry or uncomfortable. With time, I found that the things it was hardest for me to hear were often the things that helped me the most.
Also, if you haven't checked out the stories in this section yet, I'd suggest it:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-recovery.html (About Recovery)