Old 08-17-2021, 10:15 AM
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sage1969
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I'm a widowed parent of four. My AH was active in his addictions during three pregnancies, and I would have to say that having had babies, raised babies and toddlers, and raised children and teens, that each one of these stages is really difficult to do with an active addict. Add onto that being the main earner and the main everything, it is responsibility; but I did it somehow. I also think about ways in which my children might be healthier and have less emotional and psychological struggles, if they'd not been exposed to addiction and all the other problems that come with addiction. (And I think about ways that I might now be healthier if I'd taken the addict off my plate, how that would have improved my ability to support and care for my family. I have had half a dozen years on my own now, and I can say that it is easier for me to make the right choices for my children than if I were still juggling the craziness. As to the physical day - to - day how - do - I - do - it? That part you just get through it; what you don't finish doing today can generally get done tomorrow).

You might need to some quiet time to list out the benefits of raising children alone vs. raising them in the status quo with an active alcoholic. Believe in yourself: you are raising a daughter, you have your home so you are self - sufficient and able to provide for yourself and your daughter.

In your heart, you already know. Trust in that.
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