My heart is with you BellaBlue, but I believe you are doing the right thing. If love for our boys could get them clean and healthy, wouldn't that be so easy? I miss my son, but I don't miss who he is now...I miss who he was when he was a boy, and even a young man. The change in him was a process...little by little I lost him and now I don't know him.
Have you read the post on this forum, "The Battle Isn't Yours to Fight". I've read it many times, and it's an important reminder. Leaving them to it is the right thing to do. They know where to find us if they ever get serious about recovery. Stay strong, and thank you so much for posting. Most folks here post about romantic partners, and it helps to hear from parents like me from time to time.