Originally Posted by
RAL 
Alpha- I wasn't having a go at you. Just saying that I've been there. I am definitely not the 'do not judge' police -as I said I am judgmental just trying not to be.
It's great you are looking out for your friend but as you know we each have to do our own journey. Maybe her husband has just seen it so many times before he's utterly fed up. I don't know. It's great you are sober and this is definitely one of those ;'this could be me if i pick up again' recaps.
I get it. I do and thanks for the clarification
I wish I had been MORE judgmental when hers and my mutual dear friend blew her brains out in a car after drinking all day at an all day "Beer Fest".
Or when our other mutual friends husband choked her out twice, in front of her sleeping 5 year old when the tequila turned him into a monster.
I really really wish I had been more judgmental when another friend of mine, who managed to carry triplets to term, died of alcohol poisoning in her sleep on their 16th birthday.
And I'll always regret not being more open with my struggles when my husbands friend put a tie around his neck and then looped it around a doorknob and offed himself. Surrounded by empty chardonnay bottles...
And these werent skid row junkies,
They checked all the "successful" boxes, police sargent, lawyer, entrepenuer, mother, pharmacist, chemist.
Addiction is not a pussyfoot around game for me any longer.
Any I dont take potentially watching a child have to go through the horrors that I have while watching their parent die, a little, every day lightly.
If that means I'm crass, brash, too much, over the top, snarky, forthright and yes, judgey too, then slap a label on me and call me b*tch.
These were my people. My tribe. And going forward, Im not going to stand by and play small to save anyones feelings from getting bruised.
Wishing everyone the best Monday they can muster. It's dreary today. But I'm sober AF and loving all of me, including my nasty bits...
