Hi Macy. So sorry you're going through this. So much excellent advice given by the other members here. They are smart cookies! It definitely sounds like he has narcissistic traits and this has hallmarks of an abusive relationship. It amounts to a lot of stress, staying in such a relationship. Its a never ending mind game that disturbs you to your soul. One thing I have learnt, the hard way - such behavior will never get better, only worse. Until you take action. You are entitled to live a better life. I urge you to check out this resource by Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. It is a very interesting thing to read. No person in this world has the right to hurt you, physically or emotionally. The sooner you walk away the sooner and faster you can heal.
Sending you healing prayers and comforting hugs.