Originally Posted by
Aellyce 
...do most/many of these members just move on, as it is "supposed to" happen with this approach? Or disappear / become more low-key because they could not keep their Big Plan and would feel too exposed and ashamed coming back to admit it didn't quite work out as intended, even just say they needed to change the approach?...
It is not possible for an adult to become unable to keep their Big Plan. You are being too kind to someone who claims to have made a Big Plan and then goes on to obtain, grasp an open container of alcohol in their hand, lift it up to their mouth, pour it in, experience that old familiar tingle from the diluted flamable fluid, and SWALLOW, MMMMmmmm!!! Yum yum. AAAHhhhhh!! Yes, there it is again. Wow! LOVE IT!
Someone who makes a Big Plan KNOWS absolutely that will never happen to them.