I have read up on addiction quite a bit and already had general knowledge of it in the field I work in. I'm a healthcare professional and recognized many traits in individuals and made the proper referrals for them before he ever entered into my life.
I know he is all one person and not to separate the characteristics of his personality. I do try to focus on the negatives, which is difficult because I'm generally a very positive person. I don't condone that type of behavior.
I hear everything everyone is saying. I know and understand the traits of addicts. I'm just having a hard time letting go of him as a person since the issues are unresolved between us. I typically don't have conflict in my life that leads to not speaking to someone. I know it's his addiction that caused it, and I know it will take a very long time for him to work through things, especially since this is his second go round. I just want to be able to let go, and I haven't been able to for some reason.