Old 01-24-2021, 01:19 PM
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ConfusedinTx
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Originally Posted by trailmix View Post
Yes, Hawkeye is right, the local women's shelter will not only provide good support, they can help you find out what assistance my be available for you and your son. You may be eligible for some kind of housing and food allowance, but a quick call can let you know all about that.

Now this suggestion may or may not be good, but it's worth thinking about. Since he sprung this on you and he wants out, perhaps he can provide some financial support for you and your son as well. If you ask him to sit down and talk about the housing situation and your plan to leave, he may just do that. Since you are the lease holder and you said he makes decent money, would he be willing to move out and continue to pay the rent for say six months? Something along those lines. Barring that, he may just need to stop being so hostile and understand that you are stuck there for a little while longer. This is all of course if he will talk about it. It would probably be unwise, if he will talk, to bring up anything about the ending of the relationship or the relationship in general - he will probably end the conversation then. I KNOW it will be hard, but think of your Son and yourself and your well being. Perhaps think about it like a business meeting.

He needs to understand that right now you have nowhere to go with your Son and hopefully, maybe, he will do something decent.

But yes, please call the women's shelter as soon as possible, it will help you feel more in charge of what's going on, there is help for you.
I completely agree with you. Basically that’s what I’m going to end up doing is trying to have a grown up civil conversation about what our options are. I know he would never agree to him moving out and still paying rent but he MIGHT agree to me staying here temporarily until I can get on my feet. It would be really hard and it would hurt me but it’s hard and hurting me now and it will be hard and hurt no matter what. And at least that way our little boy can stay in his home and own bed for a little longer till I can get us our own place. My dad is a pastor and ABF really respects him and has always been close to my parents. So my dad is hoping he may can get through to him on my behalf as far as living situation goes....because this IS all in him. He did spring this on me out of nowhere and now he can’t just expect me to up and be able to leave at the drop of a hat.
Thank you for your suggestions!❤️
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