Charon, remember that the dynamics can change at times, so while your wife may see you as 'persecutor' and Mirko as 'rescuer' to her 'victim' , you may well see yourself as victim to their persecutors at times. The situations can be very fluid. There is also a fascinating book called 'The Games People Play' by Eric Berne and basically suggests that types of people are drawn to other types as they fill a need for them. Explains certain codependent relationships that seem pretty poisonous! It's fascinating how we can subconsciously use others to fulfil a specific role in our lives.
Scott, good to hear you are focussing on sobriety this time. And maybe you need to think whether SR is going to be enough or whether you need face to face contact going forward. There are also a lot of recovery websites now who so face to face online due to the pandemic, so far less concerns about being recognised!
Willow, Coz, sounds like you are both recognising the need for a better work/life balance for your well-being. It can take time to put in place, but if you keep the thought of it front and centre, I'm sure you can work towards it, and keep the thought of it as a reward in more stressful times.
Good to see you FK, how are those puppies growing?
Have a great weekend everyone, Be Safe, Be Strong, Be Sober!