Originally Posted by
Jabari 
I have been sober for 6 months. I decided to get sober after leaving a relationship of 12 years. During those years we did and celebrated everything with alcohol. I have not dated anyone for the 6 months I’ve been sober. Now I think that I’m almost ready to start dating again. However, I’m scared to death of drinking again and don’t want to turn someone away due to them having a drink every now and then even though I can’t. Should I just look to date sober people or tell the people who have an occasional drink to please don’t drink around me.
Jabari, please be SO careful. Every time I dip my toes back into dating I do not do well. Hope, rejection, disappointment, fear, everything. It sends me for a loop. Please make sure you sobriety is ROCK SOLID. I've always kind of scoffed at the 1 year rule. But I have come to believe it whole heartedly (though I do entertain testing it at times).