Originally Posted by
nez 
Sometimes it is best to react with no reaction.
Which is what I did. So I do agree No reaction is sometimes best. It just feels very uncomfortable. Like I was rude to not respond. But it felt like the right thing at the time. And knowing him, I think he gets it. He stepped back in the friendship because he saw that he was “wreaking havoc” on me.
Having been previously married for 22 years to an alcoholic narcissist, I have really come to understand boundaries and the benefits of no reaction/grey rock. And I guess it applies here too.