Hi Hummingbird! I too think of you and your family often. It’s a heartbreaking situation you are in. I absolutely think you are doing the right thing by sticking to your boundaries.
It’s up to him now—sink or swim time. You’ve given him so much support. He’s got the tools to help himself and if he uses them he can pull his life together.
Just wanted to send you support and prayers. Take care of yourself and keep us updated.