I’m so sorry for what you are going through, I know that it must be really hard. I’m actually really surprised that your son is able to call so frequently. When my ex went to rehab the first week there was zero contact (rehab rules) and he had no access to his cell phone. After the first week I think he had 5 or 10 minutes just once a day of (rehab) phone use and I think he got his cell phone back after two weeks. I’m sure they do this exactly to avoid what is happening to you. He needs to focus on himself and talk to the counselors. Calling his family all the time is not productive. I’m sure this is a really hard week as he is detoxing but that should also be closely monitored. These people should be used to dealing with people like your son. I’m sure most bad alcoholics are like this when they first sober up in a treatment center and that your son is not an exception as far as his behaviors currently. Will he get a psych evaluation soon? I’m sure they will want him off the alcohol for at least a wek before they will consider psych meds/treatment for his psych issues. Right now they probably cannot really get a clear picture as his brain is affected by the alchohol. And I would absolutely tell his counselor that he is suicidal. Why mince words? I’m also wondering if this is also still your son continuing to manipulate you and your husband and playing the victim card on purpose especially if he really doesn’t want to be there and actually get clean for himself. From what you have said previously he isn’t doing this because he had chosen the path of recovery himself but because others want him to. Which will make recovery even tougher and not likely to succeed long term. Hopefully I am wrong and he has really changed his mind on why he is doing recovery. Is the treatment facility offering a family week at all? If they do I would recommend going even though you are far away.