Thanks.... You'd be amazed how many times I've made the same suggestion! I think you are 100% right, but I'm so sad to admit that, like really hurting! I so wanted to hear something else.
I guess, in that context, she's not the only one lying to herself! :-(
I saw her today, btw. She seemed OK. Which I took to mean, probably using. She claimed otherwise. I didn't bother to ask...
Oh, man alive!
BUt, actually, it is very re-assuring to be told that which in my heart of hearts, I know to be true. Oh, man alive I hurt!