(((mjln)))
Congrats on getting sober!!
I know the anger and frustration of living with someone who is putting drugs and alcohol ahead of their family. I am thinking that your sobriety is still pretty new to your wife. I do not know how long you drank to excess in your marriage but, no doubt it was long enough to make your whole family sick too.
I would like to reckomend that you pray for her and also ask to be lead in a direction that can save your marriage. Also be patient with her and know that like you she is in pain and now needs to get sober from her addiction to your drinking.