Originally Posted by
hummingbird358 
There is nothing anyone can say to help me. I know he has to do this on his own.
Are you sure about that?
What would happen if you allow him to sit with himself because you stop taking his calls? No one is forcing you to communicate with him. And on that note - it doesn't look like a lot of communication is going on anyway....he's not in a clear state of mind whether he's drinking or not.
Sanity doesn't return for us alcoholics until we've been sober for awhile.
Stop taking his calls and start creating some sanity in your own life. That's the only life you can control and that's the only life you're responsible for.