Originally Posted by
any 
For me, that’s a lot easier said than done. I know he’s going through a very hard time and I don’t want to cause more pain. In the past I’ve tried saying hey let’s take some space and he either completely ignores that or he’s like “no I’m okay now we don’t need to do that” Then I give in because my heart wants him, my head is like what are you doing. I understand I’m an adult but it is hard for me to just be like I need space and not feel bad. Do you have any advice on how I could show a “stiff upper lip”? I’m all ears! Thanks for the reply!
Yes, he's going through a hard time. But it's a time he's put himself through. You're not obligated to mother him while finds his way back through and out. And it sounds like he has plenty of family available to him. Any pain he endures that comes from anywhere or any person is a consequence of this position he's put himself in. Do you understand this? You're not responsible for his pain. Neither is anyone else - no matter where it comes from. He is.
Yes, this is hard for you too. And you're not into it anymore (finally - right?). There's no book or rule out here that says Life is always easy. Right now - you're having to go through your own hard / challenging time in life. And such is life.
Just like he simply can't drink again - ever. You have to bite the bullet and start putting yourself first. To hell with others that call you selfish. Yeah! AND?!!
Jeez!
