he won't GET it. save your breath to cool your soup, as the old saying goes. you are not dealing with a person in their right mind (former crack addict here, among other things!) and the more cornered or pushed he feels, the more likelihood there is that he will get volatile and dangerous. ***i suggest your ratchet down the "talk" - especially anything about ending things. don't poke the bear. but do get your ducks in order. consider where you might go if you NEED to leave urgently while being safe. get some legal advice, but keep it to yourself.***what you do NOT want to do is hand the guy holding the gun any more bullets.