My boyfriend relapsed
Hi everyone,
I’m so glad I found this forum, to be truthful I’m not in a good place right now and really don’t know who to talk to. Long story short, my boyfriend and I met on an online dating site about a year ago, we instantly clicked like I’ve never clicked with anyone before, texted/ facetimed/snapchatted all day everyday (at the time we were living in different cities so we really met in person like 2 months after)
and when we met in person is like we’d known each other for ever. It felt like I’d me met my soulmate.
I knew about his struggle with addiction and at the moment he was 3 yrs sober.
Well, fast forward to about 2 months ago he Suffered a serious injury and started taking Kratom in secrecy. Well he got depend it on it, and he completely changed. He was supper hit and cold with me, short temper and I even caught him texting/snapchatting with some girls in a very flirtatious way.
When I confronted him first he claimed it wasn’t a big deal, then he said he just felt so ****** about himself that he needed validation.
fastforward to this week, he started taking benzodiazepines to help with his Kratom withdrawals, and it started to get out of control; but thankfully his family and best friends are involved now and it seems like we have a solid plan to get him out of this.
the reason for my post is because I don’t know what to do; it’s been so overwhelming to find out about all of this, the lying, the secret messages, all of that.
he says he loves me and he wants to get better and fix us; I talked to him and told him that his sobriety comes first and for now I’ll be supportive and when his better we can talk about what’s going to happen to us. He said he wanted me By his side, and I thought I could do that. But I’m really not okay, he just ignores me all day and I find myself kinda chasing after him. If I don’t text, he doesn’t; I understand his head is not on the right place, but I see him online on social media all day, and he can’t even answer my texts; and if we’re together, he's answering text messages constantly (I know these msgs are just to friends and family or work related)
I just don’t know what to do with myself, it’s really tearing me apart, he says he loves me and he wants a future with me, and I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a little bit of interest on his part; but maybe it is too much and I’m being selfish.