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Old 03-10-2020, 11:08 PM
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Dee74
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Hi freshout

whenever I thought about drinking in my early days, I'd come here.

Sometimes I'd post about it but most times I'd just read a little, see what others were going through and post to them.

I may have been newly sober but I still had some knowledge to share.

That, and reading here, helped keep my memories of drinking very much alive.

30 days is great but it's just the beginning freshout.

It's pretty much the time when those 'am I really an alcoholic ' thoughts come in:

'Do I really need to quit - maybe I overreacted?'
' I've shown control now- maybe I can moderate... '

all those kind of musing only have one answer NO,

You can't solve a years long or lifelong problem in 30 days - and you can't solve a years long problem by going back to the behaviours or substances that made you want to quit in the first place.

I've have not taken a drink since 07, but if I did I have no doubt I'd find myself back as if I'd never stopped

don't confuse abstinence with control - they are not the same thing.

Here are some great tips & ideas on dealing with cravings
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-cravings.html (CarolD's tips for cravings)
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