I’d imagine it’s important they know you are there for them, thinking of them.

I don’t want to smother as I would imagine it’s unbearable pain. Wish he was doing it supervised, but I can’t change it.

also also know they could back out and drink and be ashamed, so don’t want to sound too much like a cheerleader.
Not many people know how bad it’s gotten and that he is trying.
should I just back away for a while? Or any messages/ words that would be helpful in the first day or two?