Hi Undrgd
from other threads I guess you're about 4-5 weeks sober now?
Relationships, whether look long term or just one night, are difficult when you've probably not been sober for them before or at least not for a long time.
In all honesty I think I'd focus on the not drinking now and see what happens regarding other people and affection and intimacy.
You may find that taking a little time to get to know who sober you is first, will help all the other things you want fall into place?
D