Thanks for sharing your perspectives.
I think the chances of his quitting on his own are slim to none, and I suspect he'll resist getting any kind of help. I just don't know what to do. When he's home, he's either quiet and distant and acts like there's nothing wrong, or he's hostile and mean if there's the slightest problem or if I try to talk to him.
I'm working on me. I'm just so angry at him for withdrawing from our lives and leaving me with no car and no idea what he's doing.
I don't want to live with him when he's this way. The trouble is that he's spending money we need on drugs and now hotel rooms.
I guess I need to find a way to make more money so I have more independence. It's hard to focus on anything except how screwed up everything is.