Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
Red, as hard as it will be, you just need to step way back and look the other way. The fact that your sister came to you with the kids shows that she did understand the harm and will possibly find refuge with you again, hopefully for the last time. These guys can be such sweet talkers.
The thing is, if you push, she'll push back. If it all blows up again, at least it won't be as much a blow to her pride if you haven't pushed your opinion on her.
You are right about her pushing back. It's hard because I've been where she is, much worse too and my mum is a therapist so it's so hard for both of us to just let it go.. I had to buy clothes for her and the kids, feed them all for a week etc and my mum and dad chipped in to help, they don't live here, but now that she's gone back I feel a bit used..
I guess you are right that I can only be here to catch her when she falls..
Thanks for the advice feelinggreat..