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Old 01-15-2020, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted by clowery0508 View Post
Well it was short lived. He checked out of detox. Now I do have emotions. Very disappointed
Why?

Did you believe he would go through with it "this time"?

Clowery you and he have been at this for 7 years (I say this with kindness btw). He really hasn't shown any sign whatsoever in quitting or wanting to quit.

If you are going to stay you (for your own sanity) would be wise to lower your expectations.

What you have had is just more alcoholic drama, nothing more, nothing less. You end up in a car with a drunk driver. He comes in to the workplace and he is crying and his Mom is crying.

It means nothing. Unless and until he makes a decision to seek treatment, it's all just more of the same old drama playing out.

Meantime, he is abusive to you and I know this also affects your children and will for the rest of their lives.

Right now you are dancing to alcoholism's tune. It is the focus of your life, it is running your life.

You are the only person that can change that, never look to him for a solution, that is a mistake.
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