Good for you girl, so proud of you!
I had a really bad day over the holidays and had the same give me a scotch thoughts, which I thought were truly long gone.
Always serves to remind me that I am addicted, else why would I automatically think of a drink so many years later when the sh$t hits the fan.
On the merits, now I see what is going on maybe a bit with your last mention of her husband, which explains some cause otherwise she was being way out of line.
I have been married to the difficult dude that everyone had to tiptoe around and am now dealing with the same in my sister in law.
It stinks, but it was very hard for me to disobey himself without huge issues for me and my daughter, so I was grateful when people understood. They did not like it, nor should they, but they saw I was in a bind.
I would still be pissed as hell, but if possible would try to take one for the team and see whether there are things you could do going forward to manage around him.
Why do people have to be jerks?